I didn’t realize until reading this that you all lived together. That’s outstanding! It’s something I would love to do with my two guys, but won’t ever happen since one of them now lives in another time zone with his own nesting partner. Still, it was fun to read about your arrangement. I think that power dynamics can create a lot of problems in coupled relationships and in poly situations there is just greater encouragement to co-create something that works for everybody rather than looking to who is the “boss.”
Kudos!