I didn’t have my first orgasm until I was in my mid-twenties and started dating my now partner, James. I’ve had plenty since then (obv 😉) but for me I think it was in part programming around not touching yourself and also that I have to really trust someone in order to “let go” enough. Or maybe my earlier partners just didn’t really know what they were doing either….. I concur that orgasms and sex in general started to get better for me in my 40s.

Btw, love the penis pinatas! What a hoot!!

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