I didn’t blame him because he was a man. That’s you projecting your experiences into the situation. I blamed him because he’s not taking responsibility for his emotions in this situation and rather than try to really grapple with them and figure things out together from that place, he’s avoiding and punishing her for wanting something different than he does. None of that is OK.
You inferred a whole bunch of stuff into this story that is really about you and then want to blame me for pointing that out — and to also blame Anne for wanting something that is different from what her partner wants. Your entire response is very clearly you trying to work out your own shit by attacking and judging a woman who is an obvious stand-in for your own relationship problems. That’s not OK either.
Go do your own emotional work and healing rather than taking your frustrations out on some other woman/women. That’s Tantra at its core, right there.