I did read the study. Here’s what it says, “However, the importance of being the financial provider ranks behind being caring and compassionate when it comes to being a good spouse or partner, in the public’s estimation. Overwhelming majorities say it is very important for men (86%) and women (90%) to have these qualities to be good spouses or partners.”

And it’s men even more than women who believe that they need to be good providers to be considered appropriate spouses. This again speaks to the constraints of the dominance hierarchy known as patriarchy. It’s the roots of all of these problems, for both men and women. But it’s a social system that men have to actively participate in restructuring in order for things to improve for any sector of the population.

Also to speak about the level playing field in softwear engineering is just clueless and tone deaf. Harassment and marginalization for women in tech is notoriously worse than many other sectors, which are already pretty shockingly bad.

“What is especially discouraging about this situation is that at the same time that so much energy and money is being invested in efforts to attract and retain women in science, engineering and medical fields, it appears women are often bullied or harassed out of career pathways in these fields,” the NASEM report notes.”

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