I did not say that there are never false allegations — only that they are somewhere between 2–10% and that a very specific kind of person makes them under very specific circumstances. It is not the least bit unknowable. There have been all kinds of very detailed academic studies around this for many, many years.

You are completely mis-remembering the wine story. I recall that one and it is not relevant to this topic except that it speaks to how some men feel entitled to women’s bodies. The guy expected that because he’d bought an expensive bottle that she owed him sex. When she said no, and left, he sent her a bill for half of the wine. He was under the impression that he’d “bought” her and when she didn’t deliver, that then she had to pay for half of the wine that he was the one had picked out. She had ever right to call him out on that publicly.

To say that women don’t know how to interpret our own experiences is perhaps the single most condescending thing I have ever heard a man say!! Congratulations! No-one goes ballistic about one missed cue or misinterpreted connection. They go ballistic when their personal boundaries and clear “nos” are repeatedly ignored and over-stepped. Which is something that a certain kind of man does all of the time!!!

And guys like you who aren’t actively condemming that are contributing to rape culture. Instead of standing up against poor behavior as you claim that you do, you are excusing it and making it the victim’s fault. You aren’t shielding either of your children with that attitude.

And even though you weren’t able to read my article, you can still go and read the one that Lorelei linked you, which is from a source outside of Medium. I’m not optimistic that it will penetrate all of your self-invented stories about how the world works, but it’s worth a try.

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