I completely agree that all forms of sexualized violence, from harassment to rape are primarily about control and bullying behaviors. But what’s really come to light with #MeToo is just how much institutional support there has been for allowing this to go on. Independent investigations into CBS, Google, the Dallas Mavericks, to name just a few, all indicate that there was a culture of turning a blind eye, acting like it was “boys will be boys,” not punishing perpetrators and actively punishing those who made complaints. Until that changes across the board, it will remain unsafe for women to speak up and for that reason, many of them won’t.
When people stop asking women who have been attacked what they were wearing or how much they had to drink or otherwise blaming them for the situation; when the news media and judges stop saying “It’s a shame that the future of those young men might be ruined by this” — maybe then the dynamics of all of this can really change.