I cannot have an orgasm with someone I do not completely and thoroughly trust, even if we’ve been together for a while. I’ve got to feel completely emotionally and physically safe in order to let go enough.

There are so many songs like “Feels Like the First Time” which tend to indicate that new sex is often memorable sex for men, whereas new sex is quite often not that memorable for women. New partners can be a lot of fun, but truly great sex always happens for me with someone I have some kind of relationship with, even if it’s a primarily sexual relationship.

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