I appreciate your thoughts. However, half the people raped in the military are male. It's just that women make up a much smaller percentage of personnel, so a higher percentage of them are being assaulted and harrassed. Yes, one of the main purposes of any military is to create order in the world, in your area of interests, etc., through violent domination, but does that also mean that there is no differentiation between us and them, those inside and those on the outside? Normally, that's not something I'd advocate for being fostered, but in this case, it seems like it would help if it meant "we care about and support our team, whether those people are male or female, grunts or POG, deployed or stateside, because that cohesiveness makes us strong."

As I think I've told you before, I was tangentially acquainted with the Delta Force commander who led the raid on Tora Bora. He talked in his book about that about how after any mission, the team would meet and each person was expected to critique themselves and to say out loud how they could have done better. It fostered a real team mentality because there was vulnerability that was encouraged because it kept people alive. Those who tried to evade this process were the ones who were shamed. They needed to have each other's back in the most literal way possible and that could only be accomplished if ego was checked, face saving was checked, and a real team mentality was fostered.

As I understand it, Brene Brown (vulnerability researcher) is now on the faculty of the Air Force Academy, trying to help impact the culture in this way, but I don't know anything about how that's going. I need to look into that.

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