I am very comfortable in my sexuality but I definitely recognize a lot of what you describe, even from earlier in our marriage. I made a conscious decision to essentially take the lid off of my sexual self a while back (there’s an article about that sometime soon). Even for those who are pretty egalitarian and having decent communication already going, those roles and societal expectations do still enter in unless you are conscious about dismantling them. I think most people could benefit from reading what you write — even if it’s just as a refresher course.

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