Henry, I thought long and hard about what I wanted to say to you and went back and reread your words several times, using them as a reference for my remarks. It may very well be that how you came across to me was not how you intended, but I only have your words and the way that you have used them to go on. I don’t wish to get into a litany of each one that felt abrasive or condescending or rude to me. That doesn’t seem to be a truly productive or kind-spirited endeavor, but I’m a pretty steady person who doesn’t just fly off the handle and my overall impression of the tone as well as the substance of what you said was not as something meant to truly engage in a dialog. It was to show me how wrong I am on multiple levels, how the things I think are worth pointing out are irrelevant, how the sources I’ve used are suspect (even though the quotes from them are solid), how the way I interact with my readers is wrong, etc., etc.

That was my very strong feeling right from the get-go and it continued through the entire original comment. The point of my advice is that if that isn’t what you were trying to convey, you probably want to adjust your communication style. Most of what we all do is largely subconscious until we take the time to really look at it, work with it, and question whether or not that is what our conscious mind wants to be doing. It takes intention and a certain level of vulnerability to do so, which is why most people never go there.

Wishing you all the best…..

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