Have you ever been in a D/s relationship? Because I have. The submissive is the one who actually holds all of the power. And no, I’m not going to bother to explain to you how that works. Go look it up — it’s a well established fact.
Women are hungry for sexual liberty and self-expression though, and that’s what appealed to them about that terribly written and mostly stupid book (50 Shades). Sex and power do have a lot of overlap, but no, no-one actually wants to be controlled by someone else that they haven’t given express permission to do that. You have a lot to learn, my friend. What things look like on the surface is very rarely what they actually are underneath.