Go back and re-read the OP — particularly the parts about dating. There is no real way to know which is which until it’s too late and sometimes the “good guy” on your date is treating you like something something that is owed to him or like you are prey to chase down and devour. Rape isn’t just a guy with a knife on the street — more often it’s the guy you voluntarily put yourself in contact with.

And quite often men do not come running. Quite often they show up and say, “What did you do to provoke this? What were you wearing? How much did you have to drink?” A young woman just took her own life because of the way that she was treated during the trial to attempt to bring her rapist to justice. Hundreds of thousands of women were physically ill (including me) during the Kavanaugh hearing because of the huge amount of re-truamatization that happened around that time, not just about remembering our assaults — but about being forcibly reminded about what happens why you try to talk about them, when you try to ask for help, when you try to get justice……..

This isn’t about you! Stop making it about you! When millions upon millions of women talk about their horrendous lifetime of bad experiences and you say, “I don’t like to hear about that because I didn’t do that,” you are purposely turning away empathy and basic human decency because you want to make it personal. Unless those women are specifically calling you out, it isn’t.

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