From the OP - "We played with a couple, and then a woman, but were having difficulty finding a man."
We saw other people, but he didn't have feelings for any of those people, whereas I did. Now we're both involved with Tamara and both have feelings for her. Falling in love with her helped James further realize that it didn't impact our relationship at all.
And perhaps this is neither here nor there, but I consider cuckoldry and an MFM threesome to be different things. James really enjoys MFM, not because it's some masochistic emasculation, but because he likes seeing me just sexually unleashed. He calls it "goddess worship" which is a term I infinitely prefer to cuckoldry. 😁