First off, I have never once characterized men or maleness as evil. I have two male life partners and a son. However, there is no disputing that violence is largely a male problem, both against men and against women. We have an even greater issue with it than the rest of the developed world in part because we also have greater set of rules about what constitutes “acceptable” masculinity. I don’t have time right now to cite you 20 articles right now, but I’ll include a few here and then perhaps add more later as time allows. Hegemonic masculinity wasn’t a “thing” until 30 years ago because it was considered right and correct — duh! Not until second wave feminism did the overwhelmingly male academic world think to do any self reflection. Before this time period, women could not get a mortgage or a credit card in their own name, could not own a business in their own name, could not serve on a jury, could be fired for getting pregnant, etc., etc. It’s not exactly surprising that in that world, no-one thought to question the status quo or that in the deeply patriarchal and misogynistic society that we still have that there are still detractors.
The Deep Malignancy of American Manhood
Rising suicide rates and growing opioid drug abuse are symptoms of male emotional isolation and despair.
The Demands of Masculinity Nearly Broke My Family
I was so worried about showing weakness that we almost fell apart
All Men Are Harvey Weinstein…
The revelations about Hollywood mega-producer Harvey Weinstein’s decades of sexual harassment, assault, rape and the…
Speaking of Psychology: How masculinity can hurt mental health
Audrey Hamilton: Men are more likely than women to die prematurely, regardless of background. But when you look at men…
I think part of your problem is that you view a matriarchal society as the flip side of a patriarchal one and that isn’t what they were like. They were very egalitarian and I’m not even sure I would characterize pre-history as matriarchal, although it was empirically goddess worshipping and much more cooperative than patriarchal hierarchies.
The primary deity of ancient Mesopotamia was Innana/Ishtar/Astarte/ Ashtoreth. She is even mentioned in the bible as something for the monotheistic “father-god” cult that was developing to overcome. She was worshipped from the Bronze Age through classical antiquity.
I’ve already mentioned Merlin Stone’s book, When God Was a Woman and several other studies done by men that support her work. There’s also this: “Eisler is the only woman among 20 great thinkers including Hegel, Adam Smith, Marx, and Toynbee included in Macrohistory and Macrohistorians (Praeger, 1997) in recognition of the lasting importance of her work as a cultural historian and evolutionary theorist.”
Eisler works in the anthrolpolgy department of a real (not fly-by-night) university. She and her work are highly respected and if there is disagreement with some of her theories that is par for the course for being a scholar, particularly a female one.
“Dr. Eisler keynotes conferences and speaks at universities worldwide, and consults to business and government on applications of the partnership model introduced in her work. She has spoken at the United Nations General Assembly, and other venues have included Germany at the invitation of Prof. Rita Suessmuth, President of the Bundestag (the German Parliament) and Daniel Goeudevert (Chair of Volkswagen International); Colombia, invited by the Mayor of Bogota; and the Czech Republic, invited by Vaclav Havel (President of the Czech Republic).
She is a member of the Club of Rome and the Social Venture Network, a Councilor of the World Future Council, a fellow of the World Academy of Art and Science and World Business Academy, and a commissioner of the World Commission on Global Consciousness and Spirituality, along with the Dalai Lama and other spiritual leaders.”
This is all I’ve got time for right now.