First of all, the people that we spend time with are not “side pieces.” They are human beings that we have different kinds of relationships with. Also, did you not read the article I linked?
As I said in the article about being a real man, James and I do non-monogamy in the way that works best for us as a couple. We do not see anyone else, except together. This includes my other partner, Nat. If you have more questions about specifics, read some of my other articles. I’m very open about it all.
Needed or Needy?
In a non-monogamous relationship, you’ve got an extra incentive to figure out the actual line between your needs and…
James does not have a secondary partner because he’s never cared about anyone else in that way or wanted that. We are both in love with Tamara but do not seek to put a name or box around what that relationship is, preferring instead to just let it be and enjoy it. We don’t look at things related to people as either/or. We don’t need to pretend to divvy up things like love and respect and empathy for other people as if they were finite resources. We don’t believe that other people need to lose at our expense, just so that we can win. We love our life because we create it together every single day!