Even in ostensibly sex-positive communities there are still a lot of people with a lot of hang-ups. This doesn’t mean that people shouldn’t create and maintain their own personal boundaries but jeez-louise, it kinda blows my mind at times how much unexamined baggage (sexual and otherwise) that so many people still carry around. We used to go to this “lifestyle” club and one couple in particular had a huge long list of restrictive “rules” that made we wonder why they were even drawn to such a place in the first place.