Consent is the fucking sexiest thing in the world — take it from the world of BDSM. “Being submissive is about asserting control. It’s about knowing and communicating your limits. Being dominant is about listening. It’s about orchestrating a scene within parameters that someone else has set.”

https://www.huffingtonpost.com/ja-rock/talking-about-kink-and-co_b_8765446.html

A woman (or man) only wants to be overpowered by someone they have already given consent to do that.