Congratulations! You’ve completely and thoroughly proven the point made by the author of the article I linked.

Once again, men are willing to risk the life, health, and well-being of women in order to experience a tiny bit more pleasure for roughly five seconds during orgasm.

Think of the choice men are making here. Honestly, I’m not as mad as I should be about this, because we’ve trained men from birth to disassociate sex and pregnancy. We’ve taught them that their pleasure is of utmost importance.

As a general rule, men get women pregnant by having an orgasm. Yes, there are exceptions — it’s possible for sperm to show up in pre-ejaculate — but in most cases, getting a woman pregnant is a pleasurable act for men. But men can get a woman pregnant without her feeling any pleasure at all. It’s even possible for a man to impregnate a woman while causing her excruciating pain, trauma, or horror.

In contrast, a woman can have nonstop orgasms with or without a partner and never once get herself pregnant. A woman’s orgasm has literally nothing to do with pregnancy or fertility — her clitoris exists simply for pleasure, not for creating new humans. No matter how many orgasms she has, they won’t make her pregnant.

Pregnancies happen when men have an orgasm. Unwanted pregnancies happen when men orgasm irresponsibly.

A woman can be the sluttiest slut in the entire world, she can love having orgasms all day and all night long, and she will never find herself with an unwanted pregnancy unless a man shows up and ejaculates irresponsibly.

And what you are saying about condoms is also complete boloney — you will not die empty and unsatisfied if you wear a condom! My husband has sex with condoms on all the time when we play with other people. He says it decreases his pleasure an insignificant amount.

So do the other men that I have sex with. They do not moan and complain because although it decreases their pleasure slightly, it also provides many advantages for both partners — a tradeoff they are more than happy to make. When we asked our most recent play partner about his rules and boundaries, condoms — always was the only one.

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