😆 Confidence is sexy — not “trouble,” not dominance. Some men, you included, don’t seem to be able to differentiate. Sometimes they come in a package deal, but it’s the confidence part that women are attracted to, not the rest. This causes problems later on when it’s women initiating divorce about 70% of the time, quite often because they are sick of being controlled and dominated.

“Though he stressed that most women surveyed were happy with their marriages, many of those who weren’t cited controlling husbands and a loss of independence as causes of discontent.”

“According to the surveys, married women reported they were less satisfied with the quality of their relationships than married men were. In contrast, women and men in nonmarital relationships reported similar levels of relationship quality, Rosenfeld found.

It’s possible that women report lower levels because they experience heterosexual marriage as constraining, oppressive, uncomfortable and controlling, Rosenfeld said.”

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