But he wasn’t criticizing masculinity — he was describing how toxic masculinity is labeled around the world. In case it’s not self-evident, people who talk about toxic masculinity are not saying that all masculinity is toxic — they are a describing particular things like aggressiveness (rather than assertiveness) and ultra-competitiveness, which actually hurt both men and women alike. And you just got done telling me that you aren’t hung up on gender norms but still feel the need to call into question a guy’s masculinity as a way to express displeasure with him. One feature of toxic masculinity is referring to “feminine” traits as being undesirable… hmmmm! What’s going on here then? 😉

From Wikipedia: “In psychology, toxic masculinity refers to traditional cultural masculine norms in American and European society that can be harmful to men, women, and society overall.The concept of toxic masculinity is not intended to demonize men or male attributes, but rather to emphasize the harmful effects of conformity to certain traditional masculine ideal behaviors such as dominance, self-reliance, and competition.[3][4] Toxic masculinity is defined by adherence to traditional male gender rolesthat restrict the kinds of emotions allowable for boys and men to express, including social expectations that men seek to be dominant (the “alpha male”) and limit their emotional range primarily to expressions of anger.[5] Contemporary expectations of masculinity can produce such “toxic” effects as violence (including sexual assault and domestic violence), “sexual excess” (promiscuity), excessively risky and/or socially irresponsible behaviors including substance abuse, and dysfunction in relationships.[6]

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