Brava! Such an important piece! This is exactly what I discovered about myself in my journey into polyamory. Somewhat ironically, that was where I began to understand how I had fallen into a blend of co-dependency and romanticism that I had been sold by patriarchal society as the model of what love and marriage should be. The real love that was there was overlaid with elements that didn’t allow us to access the full potential of our relationship or the full potential of the other ones that we have since engaged in.

I had already begun my journey to access my feminine power, that was more than simply being a woman trying to wield masculinized power, but this improved exponentially when I extricated myself fully from the old relational paradigms. Being willing to lose all that I had before was what made space to find my true potential — a bit scary, but ultimately well worth it.

“Women get more beautiful as they grow older. Not less.
Female youth is only prized in modern culture because it doesn’t represent as much of a threat spiritually to anyone who is frightened of divine feminine power.
As women grow and mature, they call in stronger forces of sacred feminine wisdom. They vibrate with the creative power of their stories.
They are more of a force to be reckoned with.
They see more, know more, feel more. They put up with a lot less bullshit.
When women are trained into thinking there is something fundamentally wrong with getting older and are coerced into spending money, energy and power investing in ‘slowing the signs of aging, an enormous vault of divine love is lost.
Just think what would happen if all the women in the world started loving themselves even more with every year that passed.
Perhaps a total revolution would occur.”

~ Sophie Bashford

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