“Being truly attentive and applying what he says should in theory take a person through all these steps. I wonder how many people really want to get past step one, though. How many people want to get past the wound-coloured, unwavering support. I see that is where the problem lies.”

I think you’ve hit the nail on the head here. Most people aren’t willing/able to do the work that you have to find the beneficial nuggets. I think they like having the framework that someone else has designed to somewhat mindlessly glom on to. This is born out by how many Alt-right, Red Pill and other reactionary groups have appropriated his work for their own uses, even though he swears that’s not what he’s about. It’s because it’s so easy for them to do so.