Because this is what patriarchal culture has taught him is right and appropriate. Men are important and women are there to take care of them and make them comfortable. When women start focusing on their own pain or dissatisfaction, it sets off a primarily subconscious feeling that the world isn’t going the way that it’s supposed to. I’ve been wanting to write something about this. Don’t know if I’ll get to it or not anytime soon, but maybe.
Hope you are doing well Kaia. I’ve been meaning to say Hi but just hadn’t quite gotten that far.