Because any time you are raising someone to be something in particular (rather than helping them find out who they actually are) you risk forcing them to be something they are not — which is often very damaging. I have no issue with very traditionally masculine men (as long as it’s healthy masculinity) or women who just love being moms and homemakers — as long as they are doing that because it’s what they want and not what they think they are supposed to be doing in order to be accepted in society. If you truly were a live and let live kind of guy, I wouldn’t have to explain that to you. This thread began because you said something along the lines of “men who disparage masculinity usually don’t have any.” That’s not a live and let live statement, my friend, particularly since he wasn’t disparaging masculinity at all.

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