Baby, I know plenty about men! I have a husband of 26 years, another male partner and a son! I have a lot of experience with many different kinds of men. I have studied them for many years. I do celebrate the differences between all people because those are ultimately more nuanced than some kind of imagined binary split. We are all a blend of yin and yang, some in more traditional ways and some in less. Neither is right or wrong. We are all human and wherever we sit on that continuum is right where we should be — without censure or judgement; without others trying to force us into boxes that may not fit.
I’m quite comfortable with the continuity of my trains of thought and the responses that they elicit in others and the way that they quite often help others. If you don’t agree, that’s fine, but it doesn’t change my trajectory in any way.
As you may have remembered that I said in the mansplaining article, telling a woman about what she’s thinking, feeling or already knows doesn’t make her impressed by you. It will make her mock you and disdain you. Don’t do it — it’s not sexy in the least. If you want a woman to be impressed by you, ask her for advice. Ask her to show you how to put together your Ikea desk or to show off whatever her area of expertise is. The fact that you are confident and secure enough to do that is way sexier than trying to dominate her in some Flinstonian manner. Confidence is very sexy. Cockiness is not!
If you haven’t already read this one, perhaps you may get something out of it.