As I understand it, many of the people who frequent professional dominatrixes are really uber-masculine high powered guys with demanding jobs in which they always have to be in control. It’s a kind of vacation to get a break from that for them.

And that’s the way I feel too. I’m a very go-getter, competent, holding up the center tent poll on my particular circus kind of woman. I enjoy being dominated from time to time, because it’s relaxing to not have to be the other me all of the time. James and I also switch, where at times I dominate him, and I don’t just mean take the lead, but actual D/s kind of dominate. It’s fun but also a lot of work to do that. It’s much easier in many ways to just let go and be the sub.

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