As I understand it, and I also have a background in sociology, as agriculture emerged, there become a need to maintain and hold onto the land that was owned and farmed. Private ownership and acquisition arose in new ways out of necessity, as did the desire to pass those owned assets on to sons of the blood. In other words, the prior notions of a collaborative group that shared nearly everything and had no reason to care about parentage, suddenly changed. This did allow society to expand and grow exponentially, but it also came at a huge cost, to both men and women.
…worsened in comparison to what? — You are fucking kidding me, right?! Until 1993 not all US jurisdictions had marital rape laws. That meant that by law men could force themselves on their wives (because they were chattel and not people) with or without their consent!
Fifty years ago women could not own property or hold a credit card in their own name. They could not go to Ivy League schools and could be fired for being pregnant. They could be barred from juries simply for being female. They could be paid less, simply for being female. I was reading an article yesterday written by a woman who has been a doctor for 15 years talking about the ways that not only some colleagues, but some patients, don’t treat her as if she is an authority figure. This is hardly rare and is fact very common, for many, many women right now — today!
Have you read about what it was like to work at Google, at Pixar, at CBS, at the Dallas Mavericks, etc., etc., etc, etc.? If not, I suggest that you do so because then you will not be asking such a naive question. I’m not saying that to be pissy and superior, but fucking hell man!!!! If you really believe that is the truth, you need to educate yourself and open your eyes!
“Is anyone actually able to successfully manipulate the forces that produce social order and achieve predictable results?” Based upon what I know about polyamory and also what I know about the work of Riane Eisler, I’m going to say absolutely! Patriarchy is not needed for social order; domination hierarchies are not needed and are actually detrimental to true order. I live and work in systems that are egalitarian, partnership-oriented, and also highly functional. I’m going to continue to advocate for moving in that direction for us all!
Edit: And what in god’s name are the potential upsides of patriarchy for women? I’d be very curious to hear? “Women as wives under this system were not social adults, and women’s lives were defined in terms of being a wife. Women’s mothering and women’s sexuality came to be seen as requiring protection by fathers and husbands.” There are no upsides to being treated both in law and custom as a second class citizen; to having your sexuality policed and curtailed, to having no use but to look pretty, provide sex and raise children. Has some of that gotten better, particularly in the past 50 years? Of course, but not all that much better. As any person of color will attest, just because the laws have changed, it doesn’t mean that many of the attitudes have altered in any meaningful way.
“Many trans men I spoke with said they had no idea how rough women at work had it until they transitioned. As soon as they came out as men, they found their missteps minimized and their successes amplified. Often, they say, their words carried more weight: They seemed to gain authority and professional respect overnight. They also saw confirmation of the sexist attitudes they had long suspected: They recalled hearing female colleagues belittled by male bosses, or female job applicants called names.
“If I’m going off-the cuff, no-one really questions it,” Ward says. “It’s taken as, ‘He’s saying it, so it must be true.’ Whereas while I was practicing as female, it was ‘Show me your authority, you don’t know any better yet.’”