Although you made a good point about bonobos, why do you assume that she would value monogamy? A lot of people don’t, including a lot of women. Two third’s of existing relationships that open up do so at the suggestion of the woman. This is the author’s profile descriptor “UCLA alum. Feminist. Sex worker. Sexual connoisseur. Relationships expert. MFA.” I’m thinking monogamy is probably not a high priority….
She also already said that she didn’t think bats necessarily had any bearing on human sexuality.
If you paid attention and made comments to engage the other person rather than to try to somehow put her in her place, you’d probably be a happier person.