Although I agree that people should do what works for them, participating in stigmitizing female sexuality is actually really harmful. It continues to foster the notion that men are full sexual beings and that this is a desirable thing, but women don’t like sex or aren’t full sexual beings in the same way and that’s the way it should be. It’s part of why there’s a huge orgasm gap between men and women. It feeds seemingly unrelated things like rape victims being questioned about what they were wearing.

So even if you meant it playfully, the world is built by the words that we use.

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Dispelling cultural myths with research-driven stories. My favorite word is “specious.” Not fragile like a flower; fragile like a bomb! Twitter @ElleBeau

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