Also Nick, you don’t tell your problems to someone so that she can fix them for you, you share them because then you have a deeper emotional connection because you’ve shared something vulnerable. But, this fixing part is really kind of red herring anyway, because you made it clear by the way you stated that you must Never Ever bring your problems to your woman or show her any vulnerable side of yourself that it was what was needed in order to maintain dominance. That’s why I feel sorry for you and your ilk.
“Through my research, I found that vulnerability is the glue that holds relationships together. It’s the magic sauce.” ~Brene’ Brown (who has researched vulnerability and shame at the University of Houston for the past 16 years and who is probably the world-wide expert on this topic at this time.