Allan Milne Lees, this is what happens when women refuse some men’s interest. The same thing does not happen to men. It’s not all men, but it is also not a world where people are people — it’s a very highly gendered issue. Many men feel completely entitled to a woman’s time, attention, and sexual interest. Women are routinely killed and harmed for saying no to a man.

“It’s alarming the level of violence that women and girls experienece in response to rejecting unwated sexual advances or even unwanted contact from men.”

Tiarah Poyau was a 22-year-old graduate student and aspiring accountant when she told a man at a dance party to “get off” after he started to grind on her. His response was to shoot her in the face.

Iowa college student Mollie Tibbets was killed by a man she told to leave her alone when he approached her while she was jogging.

A Detroit mother of three was killed because she refused to give a stranger her phone number.

A New York woman had her neck slashed when she declined her attacker’s offer for a date.

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