All this naming stuff can be complicated, and there are times where I wonder what makes the most sense on a larger scale. Perhaps we should do like the Vikings where the boys become somethingson of their father and the girls become somethingdottir of their mother. Our son has my last name as his middle name and even though it almost never gets spelled out or used beyond the initial (if that), it’s enough for me. I was nearly 28 when I married, well established in my career and my father (one of the few left of a very small family) had recently died. In between that and all the paperwork needed to change it, I was happy that my husband had no objections to me just keeping what I had. It’s not something that hyphenates easily and both of our names are routinely mispelled. Why would I compound that?

It sounds like you are going about your daughter’s name very thoughtfully, which is, I suppose, all that we can hope for.

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