All good points and all well made. I just want to add in one additional nuance that may have been in play with the woman you talked about. All women, even ones with PhDs, even ones who have authored books on things or who are astronauts (as in the link below), or who are at the lead in their fields, still quite routinely get treated like they don’t know what they are talking about. I imagine you’ve experienced this yourself. It gets really, really old and perhaps she just lost patience in that particular moment.