“A woman who is dutifully but lovingly catering to the needs and desires of the males in her world has no reason to be vilified or punished. It is only if she is insubordinate, negligent or otherwise out of line, that such a woman deserves to be viewed negatively and actions taken to rein her in. Misogyny is, fundamentally, the enforcement of patriarchal structures.”

Men like you and men like him are subconsciously upset that women are attending to their own pain rather than to yours. This is exactly what is going on here. He didn’t comment to commiserate that he had had something similar happen to him. His comment indicated that his pain was more important, and she needed to shut up and stop talking about hers. That’s misogyny!

So please stop trying to defend a man’s right to hijack a woman’s story with his own.

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