A woman who feels free to be who she is … can have a lot of interesting experiences. Just sayin.” This is so, so very true! If guys just understood this, it would be a whole new world for us all.

As I commented in What the Vanilla World Can Learn About Consent From A Sex Club and other things I’ve written, women don’t always dress for the male gaze. Very often they are dressing for themselves first. A low cut blouse may be an enticement, but it’s more likely that it’s an expression of her own sexual self (something that is rarely condoned, unless it’s for the benefit of a man). Women are told to be sexy but not to be sexual unless it’s in response to male attention. In fact, I’m perking along on another article about just that…..

Thanks for putting this out there from the male perspective. Maybe it will be more likely to be well received by more men.

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