Plus our favorite essays, erotica, and the writer of the week

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Some weeks Sensual gets a lot of essay submissions. Some weeks the vibe leans more towards erotica. This week was one for poetry, with a wide variety of writers, topics, and styles. One newer writer said she had heard that Sensual was the best place to publish erotic poetry. We’re honored if that is indeed the case.


Moving from just extra-pair sex to a world of atypical love and connection

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When my husband James and I opened up our long-term monogamous marriage to other lovers several years ago, we made the decision to only see other people together. We were in the midst of a very connected and sexually exploratory phase and we wanted to see what adding in other partners might bring to the mix. We weren’t trying to “spice up our love life” and we certainly weren’t bored with each other, so it made perfect sense to date only as a couple. …


It’s quite possible to love more than one person at a time

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One of the misconceptions about polyamory that I find the most frustrating is the persistent belief that this relationship style is at heart an inability to commit to any one person. This is a belief rooted in the notion that since you can really only love one person at a time, any intimate involvement with more than one person must be superficial and focused solely on the sexual component.


Taking time away from everyday life in order to fully process hard stuff

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Intentional grieving: Creating time and space to just totally feel your loss. Intentional grieving allows us to listen deeply to our hearts instead of reacting mindlessly to our emotions.”


Netflix offers up a morality play on the dangers of non-monogamy

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“Great,” I thought to myself the other day when I first learned of a new Netflix movie about an open relationship. “Here’s finally a story about people like me.” But it turns out the only thing worse than very rarely seeing the kind of life you live depicted in a movie is to see it grossly misunderstood and judged. Newness turned out to be nothing more than a morality play warning people of how vapid and doomed to failure open relationships are, and presenting the relative boredom (as they depicted it) of monogamy to be worth the price of love.


Our favorite pieces published in Sensual this past week, plus a featured writer

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This week in Sensual: An Erotic Life was a hot one for erotica, with lots of new writers and great sexy stories published. And we’ve also got our usual array of compelling essays and sensual poetry. Below are links to the highlights.


The identity politics of the white men who think that it is

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The crowd who stormed the Capitol on Wednesday came from a variety of factions, from Proud Boys and other White Nationalists to more garden variety Trumpists, but what they had in common was that they were overwhelmingly white men, men who feel their cultural centrality slipping away as minorities and women continue to gain ground.

Documentarian, Jackon Katz has pointed out that many white men feel disenfranchised as women gain more equality and power, and the country becomes more racially and ethnically diverse. Trump says to these men, “we celebrate you, and the other side hates you.”

The cult-like sway that Donald Trump holds over some people is directly related to his total embodiment of the 1950s era masculinity that these men so fear losing — so much so that they would prefer to overturn democracy rather than have that sense of identity and place in society challenged. They not only were prepared to storm and trash the Capitol but were ready to hang Vice President Mike Pence as a traitor for refusing to carry out Trump’s orders to subvert the orderly transition of the presidency to Joe Biden, who won the election by over 7 million votes. …


If you had any doubt about that before, you shouldn’t any more

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“This is a direct reaction to the past six months,” said a friend of mine about the attacks on the US Capitol on January 6, 2021, an attack which President Trump invited and encouraged. I think my friend meant that it was an understandable if not entirely justified response to the Black Lives Matter (BLM) protests that erupted in the wake of the murder of George Floyd. …


Not just for me, but for many people from ancient times onward

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I have to confess, I have a bit of a spanking obsession. The mere thought of being put over my lover’s knee to have my bare ass swatted by him engenders an erotic buzz. (I’ve not yet been spanked by a woman, but I hope to be someday.) Looking at images of people being spanked as I did research for this story raised my blood pressure more than a few points. Spanking appears in most of the erotica that I write because I find it so incredibly arousing. …


If you can’t reasonable substitute boy for girl, pick a different word

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“I’ll have my boy call your boy to set up the meeting,” is a phrase that no-one has ever said. It sounds stilted and frankly ridiculous. Why then does it sound perfectly natural and reasonable to say “I’ll have my girl call your girl”?

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Dispelling cultural myths with research-driven stories. My favorite word is “specious.” Not fragile like a flower; fragile like a bomb! Twitter @ElleBeau

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